to love everything means to understand everything! (saying)
i would like to write a few words about love, myself and this site
in a world of violence we seem to depart from our own intuition, our understanding and capability to love, something everyone is longing for, but not always capable to give neither to receive. how come? what is love? some external source which is brought to us from the outside? something someone else should offer us? something i can claim? where in the world can i find it?
there is no world outside of us. the world just reflects our own fear and therefore inability to love. but what is fear? and is fear real? i suggest before we want to see the world changed for the better we should start to love ourselves. if we have achieved love within ourselves we are in a stage of inner balance and contentment, of more awareness towards life which as a matter of fact is love. love in its highest form is pure conciseness. at this point a person knows that life is never against itself. life is pro life and it flows. it’s a multidimensional concept, so we are.
most of us know the state of mind, but not the state of the heart. life and love are very fragile things which need to be taken care of and treated with respect and tenderness. something we have to rediscover and practice everyday, because it got lost on the way. if i love and respect myself, how can i hate someone else, how can i distrust another person? it’s not possible. then i have understood the concept of life, have integrated a holistic world view. life is very rich and beauty slumbers everywhere and in everyone.
we consider the world intellectually, but have not fully understood it then. one energy exists which is love. all cruelty can only happen if we deny love, the strongest, most fragile and most beautiful stage ever. to love means to willingly become and stay vulnerable which at this point can set other people’s heart on fire. love brings everything to life. love turns everything into it’s natural beauty, it gives everyone and everything the possibility to grow, grow wiser, meaning to use the whole potential which is in each and everything and everyone. to find this love within ourselves we have to dig hard and deep and this process is not a sunday afternoon walk.
trust is love. if I trust someone, i give him/her a present, i give him/her love. it will affect him/her positively. we life in a world full of illusion, we don’t know better. we consider the world a place full of misery and in fact it is. but it can’t become better, if we don’t go beyond our own limitations which arise nowhere else than in the inside. this limitation may be brought to us thru stigma, tradition and common standards. it’s up to everyone to proof what is given and told and how one finds his/her own truth to the world. many people may ask what truth is and doesn’t everyone have a different truth? keep holding on to dig in the depths of your multidimensional being for truth, love and respect. one will feel what is appropriate and what isn’t. the heart will tell, because it speaks an universal language. the mind will always argue and offer excuses for all sorts of behavior. the mind is a pretender of what should be, not what is. we hide our insecurities as if they would have no right to exist, as if they would not be part of life. it’s so much more salutary for our own being to admit what we fear, than pretending to be the opposite of our core problem. fear is a great mirror, it shows us the way, but we need to be willing to faces ourselves. i believe we use half of our true potential, our light that wants to shine out in this world. instead we believe we have to protect ourselves from others. sure not everybody respects our ethic and moral point of view, but again, we can’t force someone to open up and become vulnerable. the decision to keep the own ethic value alive will cost strength and is a constant redetermination with ourselves, as because not everybody may agree to our perception of life. we seem to need the affection of others, therefore we are afraid to reveal what we truly are, most of the time we hide our light behind the veil. not to loose that affection and support we pretend to be someone else. this will lead to our own misery, as because we are not truthful to ourselves.
we detest people’s cruelty, but have not accepted our own dark side. but it’s very important to do so. as long as we react to all sorts of addiction and indifferences in small and large term we are not completely willing to let go of our own dark sides. it’s seems easier to agree to a way of no headwind, a way of a superficial life style, but it doesn’t always support necessarily the healing.
about me
i defended love too, fought intellectually for what ever was on my mind at that time. but i got extremely tired thinking and fighting for right arguments and for finding answers which i claimed to come to me thru my mind. as the answers to whatever questions didn’t come i dropped my interest in knowing the answer. i didn’t care anymore. and then beautiful things began to happen. i received them thru my heart, because the mind was no more in the way. i was blessed with joyful moments which went beyond any explanations. i felt love running thru me, something that felt so strongly that it should become a priority in my life. i had to learn to love myself first, treat myself with great respect for who i am. everyone should do that. with that change i became softer and willingly vulnerable. at the same time i became stronger. it seems hypocritical, but it’s not. i can only suggest everyone to decide for love, as it will increase inner healing and awareness which all of us need to share a life that gets away from all that misery.
often we think no one in the world understands me and my suffering. i suffer the most, we believe. that is an illusion as well. we all make miserable experience at some point in life, and we should not claim for ourselves: i have seen and gone thru the worst. we should not claim that someone else is blessed with a better life. probably he/she deserves it. maybe i exactly want to go thru my misery in order to transcend it, to go beyond the core problem. a life without challenge, without pain, would be useless. we would not grow wiser. love is wisdom. obstacles should be seen as lacking parts of wisdom that still have not been integrated in our understanding of love. when we begin to agree to the heart in spite of the fact that it will release pain in the beginning of catharsis, life will treat us with a different world perception, with joy and more consciousness with what life and we truly are: divine.
i can not expect that someone else besides me decides for love, that he/she practices love. independently from all the others it should be my decision to love, because it feels right. this power will reach others before they even realize it themselves. love can break thru all walls that we have built around us by time and love will tear them down under great pain, provided the free will of each person. it’s always better to accept the pain connected with catharsis, than the misery that continues and becomes worse and worse. we look for someone else in the world to blame just not to consider ourselves. we project the attitudes to others which we are not yet capable to accept as our dark sides.
isn’t an amazing feeling when someone treats us well with respect, gives us a smile, a kind gesture, supports us? we loose nothing when we give, we actually gain even more, more love.
this site should become a playground of beauty, a place that is not necessarily logical, a space of comfort, where it’s enough when you enjoy clicking from one image to the other. if you feel like forwarding this site to others, feel free to do so.
all of you "out there" take care of yourself and of others. treat life with the greatest respect and see the value behind human experience as a chance to grow. forgiveness and understanding towards others will support their and your own healing. gratitude and respect will flow back to you as the result of your attitude.
jana buchholz